tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2720319614741382523.post9147488332722474194..comments2012-10-02T07:35:06.478-07:00Comments on Getting a Wesley in Edgewise: A defense of supporting adoptionsAlexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18443279217181569860noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2720319614741382523.post-87420325804924556792012-05-25T09:48:15.932-07:002012-05-25T09:48:15.932-07:00Thanks Melody! That means a lot. Something I'v...Thanks Melody! That means a lot. Something I've said before is that I used to believe all of those statements. Then I didn't anymore and it was hard to explain why. So after hearing what I once believed said to me (and being on the other side of things) it led to me doing a lot of research. I believe all of those negative views can be changed once we reason together. Of course I hold no hope for the Internet trolls, but who knows.Alexishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18443279217181569860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2720319614741382523.post-49981342907230860172012-05-24T18:24:24.681-07:002012-05-24T18:24:24.681-07:00Alexis, I am blessed by what you and Charley are d...Alexis, I am blessed by what you and Charley are doing - and I know little Roland will be blessed to have you as parents. Ignore the critics - you could live a seemingly perfect life and still be weight, measured, and found wanting by someone for something. I am praying for you and your family. I am thankful for the many who have added to what you and Charley could come up with so that Roland can come home - the fact that God provided through so many is evidence enough that it's His will. Those who read don't have to give - nor do they need to rip you apart if they disagree with you. They don't have to agree: they are not the ones called to minister that way. It's wrong for us to ream others for something God hasn't called US to do! God bless you for your careful explanations and great biblical support for having open hearts, homes, and pocketbooks! Praying for you all! MelodyMelody and Tim Plaxton:https://www.blogger.com/profile/07862155505002934652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2720319614741382523.post-2895799551872645812012-05-24T17:41:57.035-07:002012-05-24T17:41:57.035-07:00Thanks!Thanks!Alexishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18443279217181569860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2720319614741382523.post-82161267644124224682012-05-24T17:03:24.835-07:002012-05-24T17:03:24.835-07:00Thank you SO much for writing this, Alexis. Well ...Thank you SO much for writing this, Alexis. Well spoken! SO well said!!!!VCoopshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02960802246659331924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2720319614741382523.post-18232732221834862192012-05-24T15:34:32.344-07:002012-05-24T15:34:32.344-07:00I know those people! I read their blogs! It feels ...I know those people! I read their blogs! It feels like getting slapped in the face sometimes! And then after we announced we were adopting, they were all, "It's about time." Ha! <br /><br />The other side of the coin (now that I'm in all these private groups of adopting peeps) is that they are all deeply sad that more people don't care about their adoptions and aren't supporting them. They don't know how they come across when they throw around that God (obviously) threw a golden light beam in their eyes and can't we all support the Good Lord's work? :) :) :) Then they don't get why people don't want to support them and they cry a lot. <br /><br />When really all they've been telling their supporters unintentionally is that, "Hey I'm adopting and you're not. I'm right and you're wrong." <br /><br />It's sad and I feel you on this.<br /><br />I write about my feelings on helping the orphan but not being in a position to adopt here: http://arthrogryposisadoption.blogspot.com/2012/05/i-cant-adopt-them-but-i-want-to-help.htmlAlexishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18443279217181569860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2720319614741382523.post-75241836894300331852012-05-24T15:29:19.211-07:002012-05-24T15:29:19.211-07:00In this case it was good for me to research more a...In this case it was good for me to research more about my own decisions. So much to think about. (Brain hurts now.) Thanks Randi!Alexishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18443279217181569860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2720319614741382523.post-54837719183021946992012-05-24T15:28:38.509-07:002012-05-24T15:28:38.509-07:00Thanks!Thanks!Alexishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18443279217181569860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2720319614741382523.post-23891852361637193972012-05-24T15:04:56.678-07:002012-05-24T15:04:56.678-07:00I have been reading your blog for a long time and ...I have been reading your blog for a long time and like it a lot. This post has some great points to it and you´ve researched it well. I however admit to certain hesitation when it comes to supporting adoptions. While I am absolutely 100% in for adopting a child and saving, what makes me hesitate to financially support people is the fact that people seem to come to it with a superior attitude (or so it seems in their blogs). It seems like "We´re gonna adopt. It´s God´s bill, not mine and if you don´t financially support me you are not a Christian". It seems that people decide to adopt and then expect other´s to pay for their adoption and if you don´t, you are bad. And that they will have to do nothing. Their adoption expenses will allbe paid by someone else.<br /><br />I financially support families and am willing to do so but I also feel that the adoptive family should do their share. Fundaise, bring awareness, be willing (if possible) to cut back on certain things to financially support the adoption and other things. I know 99% of families do this but the 1% percent makes me hesitant. People that seem to make the donations for granted and approach it with a superior attitude.<br /><br />Those are my 5 cents :)Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03735586619218558766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2720319614741382523.post-50567365266934674292012-05-24T13:17:47.949-07:002012-05-24T13:17:47.949-07:00Alexis I think it's wonderful that you are ado...Alexis I think it's wonderful that you are adopting this wonderful little boy, and I know you are doing what God has called you to do, so don't worry about the others say. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04140462373011179123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2720319614741382523.post-17537427118622396452012-05-24T10:47:46.174-07:002012-05-24T10:47:46.174-07:00This was so well done, thank you. I'm bookmark...This was so well done, thank you. I'm bookmarking it for future reference. I'm not an adoptive parent but have supported many of the children of RR and families adopting through RR. Bless your family for seeing the truth and stepping forward. I hope you are rewarded beyond your wildest dreams one day.Se Se https://www.blogger.com/profile/14779397066721668112noreply@blogger.com